Today’s phrase January 2014

Posted on Jan 7, 2014 in Today's phrase


Anger in and of itself is not wrong, but rage and fury escalate it into dimension of the destructive. Lisa Bevere



“Since we cannot change reality, let us change
the eyes that see reality”.  Nikos Kazantzakis



purpose of discipline is not control, nut co-operation. Co-operation means that
your children choose to behave because it makes sense to behave. It feels good
to behave. This is the goal of good discipline. Dr Sal Severe



and punishment are not the same. Discipline is teaching children how to make
better choices about their behaviour. Discipline is teaching children to be
responsible. Discipline is teaching children to think for themselves. …
Discipline means teaching decision making. by Dr Sal Severe



Any unhappiness or the occasional feeling of being “stuck” in our lives often come from an underlying belief that it is somehow not good or right to want what we want, and especially to want more than we have. Caterina rando



When I ask you to listen to me
and you start giving advice
you have not done what I asked.
When I ask you to listen to me
and you begin to tell me why I shouldn’t feel that way
you are trampling on my feelings….
When I ask you to listen to me
and you feel you have to do something to solve my problem
you have failed me, strange as that may seem.
Listen! All I asked, was that you listen,
not talk or do, just hear me.
When you do something for me that I can and need to do for myself,
you contribute to my fear and weakness.
But, when you accept as a simple fact that I do feel what I feel,
no matter how irrational,
then I can quit trying to convince you
and get about the business of understanding what’s behind this irrational feeling.
And when that’s clear, the answers are obvious, and I don’t need advice.
Irrational feelings make sense when we understand what’s behind them.
Perhaps that’s why prayer works, sometimes, for some people,
because God is often mute, and he doesn’t always give advice or try to fix things.
He just listens and lets you work it out for yourself.
So please just listen and just hear me.
And, if you want to talk, wait a minute for your turn;
and I’ll listen to you. Ralph Roughton


5th Jan

Creating who you want to be is like painting a mural – it is never truly finished, and can be endlessly reworked. As the painter of our own lives, most of us do not spend enough time trying new themes, colours, and textures. We carry on with the same subjects, the same brushes, the same strokes, the same palette. Over time our self-perception narrows. … A powerful thing you can do for yourself is to expand your self-perception. Start to do things you previously rejected because they were just “not you”. Begin perhaps with something simple yet significant.   Caterina Rando