Parenting

When a child cries

In a previous article I referred to the book “Understanding the reason why a child cries” by Hideo Abe (Riyon-sha). I would like to write about more things that I learnt from this book. The act of crying is a child conveying their desire to create their being There is a story of Sumire, age 10, in his book. “Sumire was watching an animation TV program last night. It contained violent actions, so I said that I didn’t want her to watch this TV program. Sumire cried, but I really didn’t want to let her watch this program. What can I do?” Mr Abe asks that would you say “Why...

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How parents feel

I read interview article few month ago. “I felt so guilt when Dr diagnosed my child’s illness. It is because I carried him, he was part of me, it sounded like I didn’t care well.” This tells me how deeply mother relates with her child emotionally. Pain in mother when get diagnose child’s illness or disability might not understand by husband 100%. This mean is not father is Ok. He might not show much emotions but also have pain in his heart. “There are many other children with same illness” “Don’t blame yourself.” “Don’t worry, there will be good medications and...

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To dear parents

You are a good parent. Maybe sometimes you can’t pay enough attention to your child or you let your anger out on them. Maybe this is because you are frustrated because nobody understands you, or you are busy at work or have endless house work. Despite this, you are a good parent. Parents are the people who love their child, and are loved by their child. They are wishing to love their child more than their own parents loved them. They are warm-hearted people who swear not make mistakes like their parents did.” This is from “Parenting, let’s cry when we need to cry” by Wako Ono...

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Parents and children as friends

A mother and daughter have an open trusting relationship like sisters or best friends. A father and son have an adult relationship where they are able to talk as good mates. It’s a beautiful picture like a goal of parenting. I said “goal” which means there is starting point. Is it only me seeing the goal of a relationship between parent and child while the child is still very young and so they should be at the starting point? Who can be your friend, good friend, one of your best friends? Isn’t it people who have the same values in life, and who even may have a different view so you...

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